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Lessen-Stress

MINIMIZING STRESS & 
RECOVERING FROM A TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE

FROM A TALK BY THE FOUNDER OF TIP (TRAUMA INTERVENTION PROGRAM)

WHEN THE EXPERIENCE WAS YOURS
  • Tell your story to someone you trust.
  • Detach from the situation.
  • Return to normal routine as quickly as possible.
  • Participate in tried & true activities – have a strong & compelling interest other than the experience.
  • Do activities, of any size, where you can control the outcome.
  • Be aware of your new personal insights.
  • Find ways to reconstruct your own sense of safety.
  • Give yourself a present – the present does not have to cost money.
  • Don’t make big decisions.
  • Create variety in your life.
WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO HELP SOMEONE ELSE
  • CONNECT – say, “I’m sorry. Can you tell me what happened?” Acknowledge their experience.
  • PROTECT – for instance, be sure food and medications are taken care of.
  • INFORMATION – help them get the information they need.
  • ORGANIZING – help them figure out what to do next.
  • STRENGTH – help them find their source of strength to survive the next few hours.
PERSONAL SURVIVAL KIT
  • Smile every day. Laugh a lot. Find a giggle-partner.
  • Embrace a faith-based belief in possibilities – even miracles!
  • Let go of old hurts.
  • Let go of toxic, dead or draining relationships. Translate that energy to your loved ones.
  • Eat more chocolate.
  • Stop trying to live up to the expectations of others. Chart your own course.
  • Expect goodness.
  • Wear comfortable shoes
  • Forgive yourself. Mistakes are simply learning exercises.
  • Find your own heaven and visit it often, if only in your dreams!
  • Identify true friends. Cherish them.
  • Tell those you love just how much you love them.
  • Never keep score.
  • Don’t believe your own press clippings.
  • Be cognizant of the Spirit that lives within and around you.
  • Turn off your beeper and cell phone when on personal time. E-mail will wait.
  • Give yourself permission to slow down as you age. It’s OK to be weary.
  • Pet your pet.
  • Over-chewed gum loses its flavor. The same principle applies in life. Retire wisely.
  • Choose partners well. Show and tell them how much you appreciate their place in your life.
  • Wear funky clothes occasionally.
  • Re-connect with an old friend who has drifted out of your Rolodex.
  • Celebrate success – your own and others’.
  • Never shoot down someone else’s dream; never sabotage anyone or anything.
  • Dream big. Try it. If it flops, learn from it and try a new approach or different timing.
  • Be flexible in the face of change.
  • Hug your kids – again and again.
  • Eat even more chocolate.