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Thoughts from the Editor, December 2012

Starting early the morning of November 17, this month has been Amazing, the kind of Amazing that is
tied to Grace. None of us saw any warning signs. As some have said, Paul asked no one for permission
to leave. He passed quickly while in the midst of doing what he loved to do, preparing to go and play
at a UCLA game… against USC – the highlight of the season. We were very protected. The experience
could have been much worse.

With deep gratitude, it has been my humble honor to witness the great goodness and expressions of
love this city has as its most valuable resource – from neighbors, friends and acquaintances to
overwhelming support of our police and city staff.

I was personally thrilled and I think Paul would also have been very pleased to see the responses from
those of you who understood we have been doing LEGACY WORK, laying a foundation of mutual aid
and preparedness on which we can build together to increase the safety, security and friendship in
our city – a city where neighbors know and care about each other and work together with our first
responders and city staff for our mutual good. If Paul’s passing can give any impetus to this work, then
please be inspired to “go for it”!

Of course, the mechanics of my life have changed greatly. Paul managed the financial affairs of
someone else, cared for 4 websites, and took care of all the accounting for our 2 small businesses and
personal affairs in addition to the volunteer work some of you are aware of. Through the expertise of
friends, I quickly closed one business and others are working to take care of the websites and
bookkeeping with the goal of allowing me to continue to do what I love, working with you and
encouraging you to work together through United Neighbors. Some issues are resolving quickly and
others will take more time. Life will go on.

I learned one thing in this experience which may be useful for you to consider. Never in my life did I
imagine I would become an American Heart Association Instructor even though I love people. It
evolved as part of our preparedness work. I watched Paul go down, recognized the symptoms and did
as I had trained others to do. Some who have actually used CPR feel they have failed if the patient did
not survive. I conclude it is not our responsibility to decide for the patient whether they choose to go
on or stay. If we are trained in CPR, it can be our privilege to give that patient every opportunity to
have that choice. That is why I and our instructor team will continue to teach CPR and encourage you
all to take it for your own peace of mind, regardless of where you arrange to take your class. .